Editing isn't just for writers or filmmakers. It's a practice that each of us can—and should—adopt in our own lives.

Editing our lives means choosing intentionally how we spend our time, communicate our needs, and show up authentically, even whe...

 Resentment gets a bad rap.

It’s often framed as a failure of maturity, grace, or gratitude. Something to rise above. Something to regulate. Something to bury beneath insight or reframe with positivity.

But what if resentment isn’t a problem?

That Might Not Be Resistance. That Might Be Wisdom.

There’s a well-known archetype in psychology: the “help-rejecting complainer.” They vent. They struggle. They say they want support—but they push back against every solution. Therapists, coaches, a...

Goodhart’s Law: When a Measure Becomes a Target

British economist Charles Goodhart once observed, "When a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure." This idea, known as Goodhart’s Law, explains why organizations, leaders, and even en...

What most leadership advice misses—and what today’s leaders actually need.

Let’s say what no one else is saying. 
Most leadership advice reads like a teacher’s rubric. Don’t do this, always do that, here are the seven sins, five hacks, ten habits....

When Insight Becomes Control

By: Kristen Tolbert

Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

There’s a moment when you realize the group you joined is subtly shaping who you're allowed to be. Not always overtly, but in tone, hierarchy, and unspoken ru...

People-pleasing isn’t just about being nice. It’s not a personality trait, or a quirk. It’s a relational strategy—one that often masks self-abandonment, fear, and control.

Sometimes it’s obedience: “If I make myself agreeable, maybe I won’t be...

Why Healthy Ego Is a Requirement for Leadership

Let’s talk about something most people misunderstand—and most leaders quietly know:
You don’t lead without ego. You just don’t.

There’s a brand of leadership criticism that assumes narcissism is alw...

Build Strategic Processes 

There’s a paradox that many founders come to recognize the hard way: the very qualities that make you an exceptional founder can also become the barrier to scaling your business. In my own experience as the CEO of an execu...

It’s not that words are useless. It’s that the relationship wasn't safe.

In recent years, traditional talk therapy has been criticized as inadequate or outdated for trauma work. Modalities like EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, TFCBT, and IFS have becom...